Sunday, December 26, 2010

Sex before Marriage

Are Muslims allowed to partake in any sexual activity before they get married?
Brother, let me ask you a question. How would you feel if someone indulges in sexual relationship with your sister or daughter claiming that they’re planning to get married, yet after he fulfills his desires, he “dumps” her?
I don’t think you would like such a thing. How would you like it for somebody else’s daughter or sister?
You certainly don’t want to incur the wrath of Allah when committing this grave act called Zina.

Zina encompasses all the characteristics of evil: lack of religious commitment, loss of piety, loss of chivalry, lack of protective jealousy (gheerah). You will not find any adulterer who is pious, or keeps his promises, or speaks truthfully, or is a good friend, or has complete protective jealousy towards his family.
Another effect of zina is the darkening of the face, darkness of the heart and the extinguishing of its light, which is what causes the extinguishing of light in the face and the darkening thereof. Another effect of zina is the poverty that it leads to.

The prophet says in the hadith reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim: “No adulterer is a believer at the moment when he is committing adultery.

One of the things that the prophet saw when he was taken into the Isra and Al-Mi’ra’s journey, is men being given the choice of good and rotten food, these men would leave the good food and take the rotten one. When the prophet asked as to who is these men, Jibril responded that these are the men who leave the halal and go towards haram by committing Zina.

Let me also share with you some proactive steps that would help you battle the disease of Zina:

1) Think of getting married
2) Fast if you can’t get married
3) Strengthen your Iman by reading Quran and performing voluntary prayers
4) Choose the right friends for they can help you adhere to the right path
I ask Allah to protect and guide you to the straight path.
Sh. Riad Ouarzazi

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