Thursday, January 31, 2013

Sunnats Of Nikah

1.        A Sunnat Nikah is that which is simple, wherein there are no formalities, nor are there any diputes pertaining to the dowry etc.  (Mishkaat) 

2.        It is Sunnat to seek a pious and righteous person for marriage and to send a proposal to such a person.(Mishkaat-Vol.2, pg.267-narrated from Abu Hurairah )

3.        To have the Nikah on Friday in a Masjid and to have Nikah in the month of Shawwaal is Sunnat and preferable. (Mirqaat- Vol.6 pg.210 and 217)   

4.         To announce the Nikah. (Miskaat- Vol.2, pg.272)

5.         It is also Sunnat to fix the amount of Mehr (dowry) according to one’s means. (Miskaat- Vol.2, pg.272)

6.         On the first night when one is in seclusion with one’s wife, one should take hold of the forehead and recite this dua:

(Abu Dawood, Ibne Majah)
Trans: O Allah, I ask you for the good that is in her and the benefits of her good habits and character. I seek your protection from the harms of her evil habits and character.

7.        When intending to copulate with one’s wife, recite this dua: If he has children then shaytaan will not be able to overpower them and will not be able to harm them.

 (Bukhari- Vol.2, pg. 776, Abu Dawood, Ibne Majah)

Trans:   I commence this act in the name of Allah. O Allah, protect us from Shaytaan and keep shaytaan away from that child that you will grant us. The child that will be born after this dua has been recited will be safeguarded from the harm of shaytaan.


Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Standing and Urinating in Islam

It has become a common practice in many parts of the world for men to stand and urinate. The presence of urinals in almost every male bathroom has not only taught, but also encouraged people to stand up while relieving themselves. What does Islam say about this behavior?
First of all, we must remember that our ability to digest food and drink is a great blessing from Allah. We would not be able to survive without a digestive system. However, with every blessing comes a responsibility. Since human waste is classified as impure, Islam teaches us a few rules about how to relieve ourselves with dignity.

So what’s the problem?

There are many Islamic guidelines about how to use the restroom. We will only focus on those that pertain to standing and urinating. This common practice has led to the following unethical practices:
1. Shamelessness. One bad habit that has resulted from using of public urinals is the loss of personal modesty in the restroom. It is very common to see two men using the bathroom while having a conversation at the same time. Had they peeked over just a little they would have be able to see one another’s private parts. This is abhorrent. The Prophet ﷺ (Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) said,

“Allah detests it when two people relieve themselves uncovered and have a conversation.”1
The Prophet ﷺ would take so much care to seclude himself that Al-Mughīrah ibn Shu’bah said, “I was travelling with the Prophet. When he needed to relieve himself, he went far away from me.”2
2. Increase in impurity. How many urinals have you ever seen that provide wuū’ facilities, water fixtures or even toilet paper? Probably none. This results in people leaving the restroom without an appropriate level of cleanliness or washing their hands.  The Prophet ﷺ said,

“When you go to the restroom, take three stones with you to clean yourself. That will suffice.” 3
Salman al-Fārisī, the Companion from Persia, was told, “Your Prophet has taught you everything, even how to use the bathroom.” He responded, “That is right. He ﷺ told us not to…use our right hand when cleaning and to not use less than three stones to clean ourselves after we finish.”4
‘Ā’ishah (ra), the Prophet’s ﷺ wife, said to a group of women, “Tell your husbands to clean themselves with water because I am embarrassed to tell them. This is what the Prophet ﷺ used to do regularly.”5 Cleaning yourself, with either a solid substance or with water, is so important in Islam that once when the Prophet ﷺ passed by a man’s grave he told Ibn ‘Abbās (ra) that the deceased man is being tortured, but not for a major sin: “He didn’t used to clean himself after urinating.”6

3. Disrespect for others. One of the common habits we find in people who regularly use urinals is that they also stand up while using a lavatory. This can result in an unsanitary seat covered with urine and germs. Very few people care to clean the seat, let alone the toilet area after leaving, so, the next person entering has to deal with that disgusting mess. In this regard, the Prophet ﷺ said,
“Beware of the cursed ones.” Some people asked, “Who are the cursed ones?” He replied, “People who relieve themselves in public pathways or in shaded areas.”7

Public pathways and shaded areas are two areas where people would be offended from excrement and filth because they use them so often. The same curse would apply to those who leave filth behind for the next person. The curse, in this context, has two meanings: people are cursed by the one who has to deal with the dirt they left behind and they are cursed by Allah for their careless and disgusting habits.

Are there any exceptions?
The Prophet ﷺ always sat down to relieve himself. This is proven by ‘Ā’ishah (ra), who was constantly in his presence. She said, “Don’t believe anyone that tells you the Prophet ﷺ used to stand while urinating. He always used to sit down.”8 The only person who ever contradicted her statement was Hudhayfah when he said, “The Prophet ﷺ [while traveling] approached a garbage dump and stood while urinating. Then, he called me to bring some water for him, so I did, and he performed wuū’.”9 This is clearly an exception to the rule because the Prophet ﷺ was in a very dirty place. Hudhayfa’s description of the place being a garbage dump reveals to us the context and makes it clear that ‘Ā’isha’s (ra) challenge was referring to people who claimed the Prophet ﷺ did it often as a habit. Her challenge still stands today. When someone tries to misquote the statement of Hudhayfah in order to prove that the Prophet ﷺ used to stand and urinate just as people do today, we should correct it.

What should a Muslim do?
Muslims should try to combat this immorality in their own community by encouraging good standards of hygiene. We live in societies which claim to be clean and advanced, yet their toilets – the most basic of sanitary developments – are among the filthiest in the world. Visit any gas station, high school, theme park, etc. and experience what happens to the restrooms when there is no full time janitor to clean up afterwards.

People of the world still have much to learn from Islam’s frank information on cleanliness. Purity has an environmental impact and is strongly connected to worship; without a clean body, a Muslim cannot pray. It is such an important principle in Islam that the Prophet ﷺ said,

“Cleanliness is half of faith.” 10
The messenger of Allah ﷺ has taught us certain rules to observe which benefit both society and ourselves. It is up to us to be aware of this guidance, learn it and apply it.
  1. Abū Dāwūd 15, Ahmad 10884.
  2. Tirmidhī 20.
  3. Abū Dāwūd 36.
  4. Tirmidhī 16.
  5. Tirmidhī 19.
  6. Bukhārī 211.
  7. Muslim 269.
  8. Nasā’ī 29, Ibn Mājah 303, Aḥmad 23894.
  9. Bukhārī 217.
  10. Muslim 328.


Monday, January 28, 2013

The Manners of the Woman Leaving (exiting) the home (house)

1.The proper hijab.

2.Her refraining from applying perfume.

3.The moderation of her pace such that the sounds of her shoes are not heard [Surah Nur 24:31]

4.If she is walking with a female companion in the presence of men, then she should not talk to ther companion it mean’s hearing of the woman’s voice could lead to temptation.

5.That she seeks the permission of her husband (before leaving) if she is married.

6.If the distance she intends to go is considered traveling, then she should not leave except with a lawful-relative (mahram)

7.That she does not mix with men.

8.That she observes modesty.

9.That she lowers her gaze.

10.That she does not remove her garments in other than her own home if she intended by this uncovering herself .


Sunday, January 13, 2013

Why I Want To Get Married?

Why I Want To Get Married?

Because I Want My Eyes To See Someone Special, Someone Halal, Knowing That He/She Is My Gift From Allah.

Because I Want Someone Who Loves Allah And Loves Me Because He Loves Allah.

Because I Want Somebody To Share My Happiness And Praise Allah With Me, Someone To Cry My Tears Withme And Make Du’a With Me And Someone To Love And Love Allah With Me.

Because I Want To Have Children Of My Own To Love And Care And Share With A Gift From Allah.

Because I Want To Share Allah’s Beautiful Creations And Praise His Name With Someone Who Allah Has Fated To Be With Me Since I Was Born.

Because Verily, With A Halal Partner, My Life And Everything I Do With My Husband Will Be Halal In The Eyes Of Allah.

Because I Am A Gift From Allahto Someone, And I Want To Let Him Feel Allah’s Love Through Me..!

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