Thursday, January 13, 2011

If you're looking for a spouse lower your gaze.

If you're looking for a spouse lower your gaze.

This may seem like a contradiction, but it's not. Looking for a spouse who has the right qualities and whom you are physically attracted to does not mean throwing out the obligation to lower the gaze for both sexes.

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is aware of what they do” (Quran 24:30).

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms...” (Quran 24:31).

“Scoping the territory”, from this perspective, would not be Islamically acceptable.

Imam Nur Abdullah notes that looking at a potential mate is recommended according to the Hadith in which the Prophet said: “When one of you asked a woman in marriage, if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, he should do so. ...” (Abu Dawud).

This means the two potential spouses can look at each other but not ogle or stare.

Abdullah also notes there is no limit on the number of times the two people can look at each other. However, both should fear Allah and remember the purpose of this is to satisfy the need for physical attraction to the person you are marrying.

He also notes it is not permissible for a man to see a potential wife without Hijab, since he is not her Mahram (a relative with whom marriage is not possible, or her husband). Abdullah says seeing her face and hands are enough to determine attraction.

Our beloved brothers, you are good. Sisters, you are also good. But the problem is Shayateen is Shayateen and he is very tricky. All the moments, he is plotting for misleading us. And this is why, we must avoid free mixing.

Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab, Messenger of Allaah {Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam} said:"Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third."...[Al-Tirmidhi 3118]

Tips: So we should always try not to be alone with a man/woman who is Ghair-Mahram to us and not even go close to Zina."Khalwat" is Haraam..


Brothers: All of you crave for Pious wives, right? Then why most of you are so much interested in immodest girls? If you have no modesty, why do you desire modest girls?

"Al-Khabithaatu lil Khabitheena Wa Al-Khabithoona lil-Khabithaati Wa At-Tayyibeena Wa At-Tayyiboona lil Tayyibaati"{Bad Women are for Bad Men and Bad Men are for Bad Women.And Good/Pious Women are for Good/Pious Men and Good/Pious Men are for Good/Pious Women.}[SURAH AN-NOOR:26]"

Bad statements are for bad people (or bad women for bad men) and bad people for bad statements (or bad men for bad women). good statements are for good people (or good women for good men) and good people for good statements (or good men for... good women): such (good people) are innocent of (every) bad statement which they say; for them is forgiveness, and Rizqun Karim (generous provision i.e. Paradise).
( ???? ????? , An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #26)

The good men are for the good women and the bad men are for the bad women.
The good men are for the good women and the bad men are for the bad women...!!!

Modesty or faith is a priceless treasure which only a true Mu'min can appreciate ...that's the same with girls ...No pious girl would find any immodest guy appealing, even if he is the most handsome, richest or popular guy anyone can find ......

But only an immodest girl would fall for such worldly pleasures and wouldn't care about his level of faith. May Allah bless us all Pious Single Muslim sisters with pious Husbands/Wives...


ALL good in this article is from ALLAH(SWT) and anything incorrect is from myself..May ALLAH(SWT) FORGIVE ME IF I AM WRONG.

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