Assalaamu ‘Alaikum wa rahmatUllahi wa barakatuh,
I hope all readers will benefit from this, married or single
You don’t necessarily have to apply all these 60 ways BUT if you want tremendous results then be the champion and apply them all!
If a man is happy then that’s just an individual but when a women is happy then that means the whole family is happy!
1 - Make her feel secure- don’t joke about divorcing her, this will put a hole in your marriage.
2 - Always greet her whenever you arrive
3 - Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her- In this vessel there is a lot of goodness so treat her in a gentle manner.
4 - Advice her in privacy and the best timing. Don’t advice her in the presence of others, it can be a type of humility
5 - Be generous with her
6 - Move out of your way for her, when she’s coming to sit get up and let her sit on your seat tell her: ‘here honey sit I warmed up the seat for you’
7 - Avoid anger.
8 - Look good for her and smell great.
9 - Don’t be rigid, you will broken- just because you are a man doesn’t mean you have to be harsh hearted
10 - Be a good listener
11 - Say yes for flattering and no for arguing.
12 - Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear. i.e: the prophet (Saw) used to call Aisha- A’ish!
13 - Surprise her secretly. Ex: Bring her a watermelon when it’s not the season of watermelons. Pick and choose in surprising her, be an artist in surprising her pleasantly
14 - Preserve the tongue
15 - Accept her shortcomings/ everyone has one
16 - Show your appreciation to her
17 - Encourage her to be in touch with her kin relations
18 - Speak topics of her interest.
19 - Speak of her goodness in the presence of others
20 - Shower her with gifts. The prophet (saw) said: give gifts and you’ll love each other’ MML It’s doesn’t matter how cheap or expensive the gift is, it’s the thought that counts!
21 - Get rid of the same old routine once in a while, scrub the rust. Ex: Buy her ticket to a vacation cruise or something that she will enjoy.
22 - Think good of her- husn althan-
23 - Ignore some of the words/actions you don’t like
24 - Add a drop of patience- It can go a long way- i.e: at her time of pregnancy, menses…etc
25 - Expect and respect her jealousy.
26 - Be humble
27 - Don’t put a price on her happiness.
28 - Help her around household chores just like the prophet (saw) did.
29 - You can’t force her to love her in laws, but help her respect and love your parents.
30 - Show her that she is an ideal wife; each and every wife is an ideal wife in many ways, so make her feel that.
31 - Make dua’a for her and always remember her in your dua’as
32 - Leave her past to Allah swt
33 - Don’t show her that you are doing favors by doing your duties
34 - Shaytaan/Satan is your enemy NOT your wife!
35 - When eating, don’t only feed yourself, feed her TOO! – Not only does it go to the stomach but to the heart too.
36 - Look at her as a precious pearl, treat her and take care of her like a precious pearl
37 - Speaking of pearlsà show her YOUR pearlsà SMILE! Don’t put your smile out-of-service when you reach home! Don’t be rigid, smiling is Sadaqah
38 - Don’t hold grudges. Deal with the littlest matters and don’t ignore them, it will build up and will create a wall between you and your wife.
39 - Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
40 - Respect her thinking; her thinking strengthens you.
41 - Help her discover/develop her skills and her success within
42 - Respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship- it’s a fragile matter.
43 - Help her with the children; it’s not only her job it’s yours too!
44 - Complement her!-give her the gifts of the tongues-
45 - Don’t be a stranger to her meals, know your wife’s meals, and eat her food.
46 - Let her know when you are traveling don’t just disappear, and also let her know about your arrival.
47 - When arguments arise, deal with it and don’t run away from it.
48 - Don’t share your home secrets with your friends. Keep your privacy, and don’t make it a garage sale.
49 - Encourage each other to worship/obey Allah swt – Go for umrah together, listen to a lecture/recitation.-
50- Engrave her rights in your heart and in your conscious
51 - Treat her with kindness through happiness and sorrow
52 - Don’t jump on your wife like a ball!, in fact polish your love with many kisses- A kiss is a messenger- alqubulah rasool
53 - When disputes happen between you and your wife, don’t go and share it with the whole world.-don’t leave your wounds open for the germs-
54 - Show her that you care for her health.
55 - Don’t think that you are right all the time!-No one Is perfect but the prophet (saw)-
56 - Share you happiness and sorrow with her.
57 - Have mercy on her.
58 - Be the shoulder she can lean on!
59 - Accept her as is, she’s a bent rib so don’t try to straighten it.
*Side note: A dear friend once said: “a bent rib cannot be straightened, and in fact the beauty of it lies within its curve!”
60 - Have good intentions for your wife – alniyaatu atayibaah-